When you got married, you more than likely had no idea that the bumps in the road might feel like huge boulders. If your marriage is going through a very rocky time now, maybe you and your spouse have talked about a trial separation. Maybe the sad word, divorce, has even been used by one or both of you. Have you decided that you want to work hard to save the marriage that was once the sweetest part of your life together? Read on for some ideas that might help you in that effort.
Be Creative In Finding A Solution Yourselves
Obviously, you have more than likely tried things like going on dates just with each other. Maybe you have even gone on a weekend trip together. Fine-tune those experiences by adding some extra fun and romance to the mix.
For instance, instead of just going to dinner and a movie, think of going on a moonlight picnic together. Or, if you have your own swimming pool, plan a midnight swim, suits not necessary. If you have kids, this might be a good night for them to do a sleepover with friends or family. Instead of just going on a weekend trip together, think of camping out. You would have to work closely together to do things like setting up a tent and making your meals.
Don't let your pride get in the way of setting these ideas, or others, in motion. It might end up with a wonderful payoff for you both.
Arrange For Marriage Therapy
Maybe you have tried the above ideas and many others, but things are not that much better. If that's the case, it might be time for you to seek the help of a professional therapist.
When you look for a therapist, find one that specializes in marriage and family therapy. Your ecclesiastic leader or your family doctor can help you to find the therapist that can help you as you go through this difficult time. Be ready to try anything the therapist asks you to do. After all, you have gone to him or her because you have a feeling of trust. If the therapist asks you to do homework, it is because he or she knows that it could be an important part of getting your marriage back on track.
Don't be surprised if the therapist asks you if you truly love one another and if you are willing to work hard to make changes. He or she wants to know your level of commitment. You'll talk with the therapist individually and together. Don't hold anything back. The therapist will have seen and heard similar scenarios and will have the experience to know how to help you.
At first, you'll probably see the marriage therapist once or twice a week, maybe even more. As things progress in a positive way, the meetings might be monthly. You and your spouse will have a voice in making that decision.
If you are interested in marriage therapy, reach out to a family therapy clinic.